Last night as we're getting ready for bed I come across J sitting on the toilet reading a potty training book swinging her little feet.
Mommy: "Hi, Sweetie, are you done?"
J: "Yup, I just pooped."
Mommy: "good girl, you went poop." *thinking okay I have to do a wipe check*
J: looks over her shoulder and into the toilet and says "yup, two poops. I get a treat".
Mommy: "um, no sweetie you only got treats when you were little and just learning to go poop on the potty."
J: "when I was a berry little baby, I used to sit on the dora potty, yeah so I don't fall in and get flushed.... with the poop."
My husband and I had a little chuckle over this conversation but later I wondered if this was a little insight into her thoughts when she was younger? Was she really worried about getting flushed down the toilet even though it's obviously not a giant black hole? Was that why she didn't like to go poo on the potty, it takes longer to poo than to pee?
But who knows what goes through their heads. When she was smaller she hated things going over her head. This included getting dressed and she cried every time I dressed her. This drove me crazy because it was, in my mind completely irrational. Obviously I wasn't very good at hiding my annoyance because as she grew out of this fear she said to me... "see mommy, I don't cry anymore when it goes over my head." I felt bad because I hadn't been very understanding with my poor mite. I was too rushed.
Just like E you could toss around and throw on the bed etc and she just loved it. She loves horseplay. J didn't and it took me quite a well before it finally went through my head... J doesn't like it! So I stopped doing it. DUH, that should have been obvious but sometimes we are just so caught up with what we have to do that we forget to stop and listen to the tiny voices and give them some credit. It doesn't matter that their fears are silly, it's real to them and deserve our time and attention and understanding.
No matter how much it drives us crazy!
In the Mommy Trenches